HOW TO BUILD A BOND IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP

Building A Bond In Your Relationship

Do you have a real connection with one another? Yes, you love each other. You're attracted to each other. You share the common interests and mutual values that brought you together in the first place. But still the bond has not been set completely. Besides love and caring, you need to find out if you can be best friends, because that is the way to build a lasting bond.

Friendship will give your bond the strength and commitment to keep it running through all kinds of hardships and unexpected unpleasant surprises that life may hand you. A strong longing and a healthy passion won't always see you through because those can be transitory in tough times. You may not believe it now, but as your relationship continues to grow and life continues to go on the way it seems to do, you will be handed some experiences that will make you both less interested in having hot sex for a while. This is when you will want a serious friendship. You will want someone you can totally count on who will be there for you and who you can rely on. Someone who's got your back, as the they say.

Is your partner a lover and a friend? If not, you need to build that bond. Here are some questions that will help you decide that question for yourself:

*Can you talk to and confide in each other about anything?
*Is your partner there for you when you need to talk to someone?
*Can you always rely on each other?
*Do you have your partner's permanent shoulder to cry on when you need
it?
*Would you honestly say you have a lot in common?
*Do you accept each other for who you really are?
*Does he/she listen to you and consider your opinions important?
*Is your partner understanding towards you?
*Is your partner non-judgmental towards you?

Don't feel guilty if your lover doesn't meet some of your higher expectations. This can be something for the two of you to discuss and work on. Just don't lose sight of your goals.

Watch the relationship and see if the bond is building or if you two can only seem to have love and romance and not friendship. With attention and teamwork you should be able to form this all-important bond.